12 Ways On How To Stop Loving Someone Who Doesn’t Love You Back


We’ve all heard the saying ‘If you love someone, set them free. If they come back they’re yours; if they don’t they never were.’ We’ve read this quote in countless magazines or books, or heard it in movies. What we didn’t know then, was how utterly painful it is. Those who have been through it and came out in one piece will tell you they feel they’ve been to a war. Hold on girls, it’s not that morbid, really. I can understand your situation; you love him, he loves you, all is well. Then comes that time when he no longer returns the feelings. That’s got to hurt, but making matters worse is the fact that you can’t seem to stop loving him. Well, here’s some good news, you CAN stop loving him. Just follow our guide, where we’ve laid out the top 12 ways you can get over him-for good especially if you are in a open-relationship.

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Fall in love again-with yourself

Remember that person who loved the outdoors, but gave it up for the guy who hated it? Oh, and remember that girl who was the most popular in high school but had to drop out of her social circle to make time for the ‘love’ of her life? Yeah, that’s right. I’m talking about you. When we are with someone, we automatically put our single selves up on a shelf, transforming and molding ourselves into a person who’s easier to date & last but not the least, we try to save the relationship even to impossible extents. Now would be the best time to go back and reach out to all the friends you cut off for your guy. All the stuff that made you happy once when you were single is still out there, waiting for you to come back to it. Instead of feeling sorry for yourself, get out there and become the amazing person you used to be. Love yourself first; the rest will fall into place.

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Get rid of excess baggage

This one might seem exceptionally hard to do, but once done, you’ll feel like a huge chunk of weight has been lifted off your shoulders. It doesn’t matter how many questions you have asked your boyfriend during the relationship. Delete and get rid of all texts, pictures, emails and anything else that is a constant reminder of him. You’ll question yourself whether you should, but believe me, you’ll thank me later. This doesn’t just apply to your cell phone. Go ahead and delete all your pictures together on Facebook, Instagram or anywhere else you can think of. Believe me, if there’s one thing we girls love doing, its torturing ourselves by going down memory lane, and that is exactly what you’re going to avoid. It was nothing but an abusive emotional relationship.

Get a new look

get a new look

However small or insignificant this one may seem to you, go for it. All the things your guy kept you from trying out when you were a couple, are now free to be tested out. Experiment with a new hair color or cut, or change your wardrobe and give yourself a makeover. Embrace your freedom to do whatever you want, especially all those things that the love of your life stopped you from. These small steps are the building blocks to happiness that doesn’t just come from someone else. The source is now you yourself. How great is that!

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  1. soli

    Apr 16, 2015 at 3:35 am

    What if it isn’t working and you just can’t let go.? Even after you say goodbye..

  2. Phindile

    Jul 7, 2015 at 9:11 pm

    I strugle to get over my ex whenever i try moving on he comes around,he hurts me a lot and never get to spend time with me,i never lose hope on us,i love him a lot and i struggle to move on

  3. mr. voldemore.

    Aug 27, 2015 at 6:00 pm

    its really nice to read this blog.
    P. S.- helpful.

  4. Amina yasmin

    Sep 19, 2015 at 8:50 am

    Felt so overwhelming reading this post. Really good one. Motivated me to finally move on and to cope up with the aftermath sorrow. :’)

  5. brooklyn

    Sep 24, 2015 at 6:00 pm

    really helpful… is a sad thing to go through… although I still wish it had neva happened ?

  6. Adeniyi Adesola

    Oct 13, 2015 at 5:19 pm

    Really helpful

  7. Jinky klaire

    Oct 29, 2015 at 6:36 pm

    so helpful, I learn a lot

  8. bobby

    Nov 10, 2015 at 1:12 pm

    Am really much excited havin bumped into dis article..i use to tink dat my world has fallen,not anymore..from now on I wil do my possible best to try nd get her out of my mind

  9. Lhiz

    Dec 5, 2015 at 6:22 am

    Would really wanna try it all…hopefully I’ll pass

  10. rovelyn sayco manalo

    Dec 8, 2015 at 2:30 pm

    .. Its so hard to forget him. ?

  11. September

    Dec 17, 2015 at 3:34 pm

    It helps clear my thoughts as of now… Thank you for this…

  12. Tammy

    Jan 14, 2016 at 3:26 am

    Some great advice. I am going to do this ASAP. Tired of my aching heart…I need to heal. Thanks.

  13. Lola Bunny

    Jan 22, 2016 at 1:23 pm

    Yes, very sad and hard to go through. Depressing really!

  14. Shadya

    Feb 3, 2016 at 7:19 pm

    Thank u i appreciate reading this.. it hurts but u a right i deserve better than this much better.

  15. Lerato

    Mar 9, 2016 at 8:45 pm

    im going thru a sort of a break up righy now with the father of my 20 month old daughter, it isn’t all that easy if you have kid together. I wish he would stop with the games and go back to the guy I met 4 yrs ago.
    I love him sooo much, we haven’t been intimate for the past 5 months due to his living situation of which i’ve been so understanding of, never cheated not even once during that time and im only 22 ( he is 40)

    I don’t know wher to start with moving on because i’ve been with him for so long I don’t even knw how to flirt with other guys. I’m even thinking of committing suicide but can’t bring myself to do it because of my daughter. I sent him my last msg tonight, gave him my heart for the last time from now on wont be bothering him with calls and all that. I know its gonna be hard but im gonna try moving on.. im gonna keep praying for him tho that he finds someone who will love him more then I could ever love him, which I doubt he ever will find..

  16. love

    Apr 3, 2016 at 2:52 am

    You cannot forget someone like that in true love….He left me but I didn’t and ill never ,I know he’ll come back because at present he is not mature enough to understand what is true love. And it’s never possible to forget true love. Boyfriend- girlfriend is different but what when he is your life, who can forget life? So these type of articles are for those people who change their LOVE everyday .

  17. Harriet

    Apr 10, 2016 at 7:33 pm

    this didn’t help me, what if i cant get a new look cause my look is too swag and what if i don’t want to get rid of access baggage cause i really like my suitcase.
    all jokes aside the first one is the only good advice and it isn’t even that good

  18. amoranecnava

    May 19, 2016 at 1:27 am

    Everyday I pray ill get through the process..

  19. Sidoni Lenin

    May 22, 2016 at 5:40 am

    Well i let him go and he keeps coming BACK!!!!!! I love him but i know hes not the right guy for me but he keeps insisting and i just dont know what to do anymore. Ive broken up with him so many times said goodbye a million times cursed him out insulted him blackmailed him…. I just dont know what else to do to get rid of him. Someone please help me!!!

  20. Jean Leier

    Jun 14, 2016 at 1:29 am

    It’s so hard to let go, I’ve tried for over a year. I’m sure if he calls again, I’ll be right there for him!

  21. Dana jackson

    Jun 14, 2016 at 6:38 pm

    These are very good suggestions. I am falling out of love with my former boyfriend as I look back at the crappy way he treated me. I even made a list of instances to read and reread to convince myself what an a-hole he was. Believe me, it helps.
    I think the worst was when he dumped me twice, both times when I was just released from the hospital. He didn’t visit or call while I was there, either. We usually got back together in a few days but not this time. I think he did me a giant favor by leaving. It was something I wasn’t strong enough to do.

  22. Random

    Jun 21, 2016 at 12:48 pm

    It is so hard going through this, I go to the same school and we are in the same class and he is sitting one table away from me, I haven’t told him that I like him but he doesn’t show any signs and he flirts with a friend of me. I know he doesn’t like me, like who does. I am not 10/10 or 6-7-8-9 out of 10, I am ugly and super skinny and my friend is curvy and pretty. He even said on the prom that he liked a girl and after that he said ” You will see who it is ” but he never did anything, and sometimes he gives me compliments and is teasing me but I know that he didn’t mean that I was the girl on the prom. It is just so heartbreaking because he is so nice and we have so much in common and he has always been there for me and I don’t want to let him go :((
    I am 17 years old

  23. Moitlamo Masedi

    Sep 8, 2016 at 12:18 pm

    thanks for this wonderful advises, or lord am relived

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