Making you feel like plain Jane
Constantly being told that you aren’t good enough, intelligent enough, pretty enough or thin enough by your man is not only hurtful, it’s a tell-tale sign that he’s come down to criticizing you and making you feel as worthless as possible before he makes his next move. This justifies his cheating ways, not only to himself, but it ends up in you yourself thinking you’re just not good enough for this super-man. This is where your guy is laying the first brick of his foundation of lies. When all is said and done, and you find out he was all the while cheating, your mind will rewind to this phase where he made you feel so low and useless that you actually blame yourself for the split. Your gut instinct will tell you otherwise, so listen to it carefully.
Not getting back to you on time
You’ve called, you’ve texted, and you’ve even sent voice messages plus a poke on Facebook. All in vain. He doesn’t answer any of the above. You start to think he’s dropped off the face of earth, and the panic hits you. Just when you’re about to file a missing persons report with the police, he casually calls or texts you, acting as if nothing ever happened. Oh yes, there’ll be the usual string of excuses. He was in a meeting, or his phone was on a charger in a different room or that it was set to silent and he completely got caught up with something important. He was about to reply but just couldn’t get around to it.
Hmmm…somehow something doesn’t add up. Of course it doesn’t! No matter how busy we all get, don’t we always find a minute to answer a panicky phone call just to put that person out of their misery? There’s also that automatic text reply that can be sent by the touch of a button telling you he’s busy and will get back to you. Disappearing for hours and hours with no plausible explanation just smells fishy.
Possessiveness does not always equal love
Ever feel like you’re on an invisible leash? Sounds really demeaning but that’s how many women feel when they’re in a relationship with controlling men. How does this signal he’s a cheater? Easy. He controls what you do, what you wear, who you meet and hang out with and for how long, yet you seem to have zero control on his whereabouts and behavior. He constantly keeps a check on you, much like your dad, but as soon as you start to question anything he does, the reaction is to shut you out. You tell yourself he loves you so much he can’t bear to let you out of his sight, but a little voice inside your head tells you otherwise. Love is a two-way street. If you’re giving and letting him order you around, normally he would let you exert some control over his life too. Not that it’s a healthy thing to have in a relationship, but when you’re at the giving end and he’s only at the receiving, it’s time to break down the wall and find out exactly what he’s hiding from you.