Out with old, in with the new!
If you realize that the two of you had a lot of stuff in common, like similar interests and a lot of mutual friends, then it’s not going to be as easy to get over them. There’s always going to be a friend who’ll mention his name unintentionally, or you might bump into him at the local bar where you both hang out a lot. Seeing him every time will bring back memories of dejection and sadness all over again. You may think about going into hibernation altogether but there’s a better option. There are probably thousands of friendly people out there waiting to get to know you, or just to meet new people.
You need to change your outlook and step up your social ladder. You don’t have to lose your good friends who happen to be his friends too, I’m sure they’ll understand what you’re trying to do. There’s always time to meet new people and adopt new hobbies, you’ve just got to have the right attitude and tell yourself you can do it. In short, keep yourself so busy that you barely have time to stop and feel sorry for yourself.
Have a heart-to-heart with a trusted one
Bottled up emotions are sometimes the most dangerous ones. We suppress all our feelings of hurt and bury them deep down, telling ourselves not to cry and that we’re ok. The truth is, this is not the way you heal. Healing only takes place when you confront the bitter sad truth, let it walk all over you and eventually, the feeling subsides and you feel brand new. Yes, it’s gonna hurt but what are best friends for if not for lending a shoulder to cry on. Have a deep conversation about the guy who doesn’t love you back, how you longed for him to return the same feelings.
Tell her how he walked away and never looked back and how lonely you felt. It will sound ridiculous but get a good cry out of it, vent out your feelings of rejection and of feeling unloved once and for all. Then take a deep breath and let it all go. Hug your bestie and feel safe in the knowledge that there are plenty of other people who love you and care for you.
Plenty of fish in the sea!
Once you start to feel like the guy you love is slowly but surely fading from your heart, don’t resign yourself to staying single. If there’s a guy who seems genuinely interested in you and seems like relationship material, go on and agree to meet him for a quick coffee. It may seem impossible to ever feel the same way for someone again, but never say never! Have faith in your heart. However bruised it maybe, it still has the capacity to love people. Even if you don’t feel too attracted, it’s alright. At least you got to hang out with someone nice who made you feel special and wanted.
Most of the time, loving someone who doesn’t love you back seems like the end of the world. We feel crushed and we think we’ll always be affected by this heart-ache. True, but only to the point of how we choose to react and rise out of our misery. Your actions and reactions to this phase in your life will probably shape the kind of person you will be tomorrow. You may realize that you deserve a lot better, and move on to find your soul-mate, or you’ll carry the hurt with you and turn into a cynic who doesn’t believe in love altogether. Whatever route you choose to take, just remember to love yourself first always, and never settle for any less than you deserve. There’s always someone out there who loves you, just the way you are.
Apr 16, 2015 at 3:35 am
What if it isn’t working and you just can’t let go.? Even after you say goodbye..
Jul 7, 2015 at 9:11 pm
I strugle to get over my ex whenever i try moving on he comes around,he hurts me a lot and never get to spend time with me,i never lose hope on us,i love him a lot and i struggle to move on
Aug 27, 2015 at 6:00 pm
its really nice to read this blog.
P. S.- helpful.
Sep 19, 2015 at 8:50 am
Felt so overwhelming reading this post. Really good one. Motivated me to finally move on and to cope up with the aftermath sorrow. :’)
Sep 24, 2015 at 6:00 pm
really helpful… is a sad thing to go through… although I still wish it had neva happened ?
Oct 13, 2015 at 5:19 pm
Oct 29, 2015 at 6:36 pm
so helpful, I learn a lot
Nov 10, 2015 at 1:12 pm
Am really much excited havin bumped into dis article..i use to tink dat my world has fallen,not anymore..from now on I wil do my possible best to try nd get her out of my mind
Dec 5, 2015 at 6:22 am
Would really wanna try it all…hopefully I’ll pass
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Dec 8, 2015 at 2:30 pm
.. Its so hard to forget him. ?
Dec 17, 2015 at 3:34 pm
It helps clear my thoughts as of now… Thank you for this…
Jan 14, 2016 at 3:26 am
Some great advice. I am going to do this ASAP. Tired of my aching heart…I need to heal. Thanks.
Jan 22, 2016 at 1:23 pm
Yes, very sad and hard to go through. Depressing really!
Feb 3, 2016 at 7:19 pm
Thank u i appreciate reading this.. it hurts but u a right i deserve better than this much better.
Mar 9, 2016 at 8:45 pm
im going thru a sort of a break up righy now with the father of my 20 month old daughter, it isn’t all that easy if you have kid together. I wish he would stop with the games and go back to the guy I met 4 yrs ago.
I love him sooo much, we haven’t been intimate for the past 5 months due to his living situation of which i’ve been so understanding of, never cheated not even once during that time and im only 22 ( he is 40)
I don’t know wher to start with moving on because i’ve been with him for so long I don’t even knw how to flirt with other guys. I’m even thinking of committing suicide but can’t bring myself to do it because of my daughter. I sent him my last msg tonight, gave him my heart for the last time from now on wont be bothering him with calls and all that. I know its gonna be hard but im gonna try moving on.. im gonna keep praying for him tho that he finds someone who will love him more then I could ever love him, which I doubt he ever will find..
Apr 3, 2016 at 2:52 am
You cannot forget someone like that in true love….He left me but I didn’t and ill never ,I know he’ll come back because at present he is not mature enough to understand what is true love. And it’s never possible to forget true love. Boyfriend- girlfriend is different but what when he is your life, who can forget life? So these type of articles are for those people who change their LOVE everyday .
Apr 10, 2016 at 7:33 pm
this didn’t help me, what if i cant get a new look cause my look is too swag and what if i don’t want to get rid of access baggage cause i really like my suitcase.
all jokes aside the first one is the only good advice and it isn’t even that good
May 19, 2016 at 1:27 am
Everyday I pray ill get through the process..
May 22, 2016 at 5:40 am
Well i let him go and he keeps coming BACK!!!!!! I love him but i know hes not the right guy for me but he keeps insisting and i just dont know what to do anymore. Ive broken up with him so many times said goodbye a million times cursed him out insulted him blackmailed him…. I just dont know what else to do to get rid of him. Someone please help me!!!
Jun 14, 2016 at 1:29 am
It’s so hard to let go, I’ve tried for over a year. I’m sure if he calls again, I’ll be right there for him!
Jun 14, 2016 at 6:38 pm
These are very good suggestions. I am falling out of love with my former boyfriend as I look back at the crappy way he treated me. I even made a list of instances to read and reread to convince myself what an a-hole he was. Believe me, it helps.
I think the worst was when he dumped me twice, both times when I was just released from the hospital. He didn’t visit or call while I was there, either. We usually got back together in a few days but not this time. I think he did me a giant favor by leaving. It was something I wasn’t strong enough to do.
Jun 21, 2016 at 12:48 pm
It is so hard going through this, I go to the same school and we are in the same class and he is sitting one table away from me, I haven’t told him that I like him but he doesn’t show any signs and he flirts with a friend of me. I know he doesn’t like me, like who does. I am not 10/10 or 6-7-8-9 out of 10, I am ugly and super skinny and my friend is curvy and pretty. He even said on the prom that he liked a girl and after that he said ” You will see who it is ” but he never did anything, and sometimes he gives me compliments and is teasing me but I know that he didn’t mean that I was the girl on the prom. It is just so heartbreaking because he is so nice and we have so much in common and he has always been there for me and I don’t want to let him go :((
I am 17 years old
Sep 8, 2016 at 12:18 pm
thanks for this wonderful advises, or lord am relived